If you have lost a loved one and have been asked to plan funeral services, you probably feel that you have a heavy burden on your shoulders. After all, honoring somebody before friends and family is a big responsibility. If your loved one is being cremated, here are some ideas that might make your job easier:
Plan A Display - Obviously, the biggest difference between a traditional funeral and one where the deceased has been cremated is that there is no body in a casket. Some people feel that this fact makes it harder to say goodbye, as there won't be a service that includes a final viewing. You might be one of these individuals yourself:
- Having a display that represents the deceased person's life will help you and others to have something concrete to remind you of your loved one.
- Consider having a display table that will include things like trophies and other awards received during life and objects that show favorite sports and hobbies. For example, if your loved one was an artist, display original art work. For one who loved sports, create a display that includes sports shoes, balls, and other sports objects.
- A beautiful part of the display would be to include framed photographs of your loved one. Frame pictures from the deceased's baby years through present day photographs. Family pictures that include your loved one would be meaningful, too.
Plan The Service - A perfect service pays honor to the deceased and brings consolation to those loved ones who are left behind.
- As you plan the service, consider whom to ask to speak. It might be you. Be sure to get pertinent personal facts from the closest person to the deceased, whether you are speaking or whether you have asked somebody else to do the honors. It is nice to include the deceased's life story and accomplishments. Don't forget to include humorous stories as this helps people in the congregation to feel closer to the person who has passed away. If they are comfortable speaking, another idea is to ask the deceased's children and grandchildren to give a few words.
- If you want music for the services, consider the deceased person's religious background. A Christian might love hymns like, How Great Thou Art, Amazing Grace and Holy, Holy, Holy. If you want to honor a patriot, consider songs like The Battle Hymn of the Republic, God Bless America or My Country "Tis of Thee. Other considerations are inspiring songs like The Impossible Dream, Over the Rainbow or Climb Every Mountain.
- The funeral home will almost always help you with a simple open house where punch and cookies or cake will be served. This is a great time for friends and family to visit and to remember their loved one.
Hopefully the time preparing for this event will be a special one for you. To learn more, contact a company like Ahlgrim & Sons Funeral And Cremation Services LTD with any questions or concerns you have.