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5 Steps To Ease The Adoption Homecoming Process

Posted by on Jul 6, 2015 in Uncategorized |

If you are excited to be bringing home a new family member, you will no doubt want to make the process as smooth as possible for everyone. There are a few things to keep in mind while you settle your new child into your home, so read on for 5 steps to take to ease the adoption process. 1.  Pave the way and introduce yourself. If you can, have a care package sent to your adoptive child a week or so before meeting them can help the child acclimate to their new parents. Include some fun educational toys and a small photograph album of you and your family. If age appropriate, try including a small stuffed animal that you have photographed in various places around your home to help the child make the connection between the toy, you and their new home. 2.  Know as much as possible about your child’s daily routines. While it is not always possible, if you are able to discuss your child’s daily routines with foster parents or caregivers, the information you learn will be quite valuable. Ask about sleep and eating habits, soothing techniques and favorites playthings. For example, does the child need a pacifier or a special blanket to settle down for the night? You want to make the transition as easy as possible for your child and keeping routines in place could reduce anxiety for both you and your child. 3.  Make their room special, but be patient while they adjust. Part of the excitement of bringing home a child is in the preparation of the nursery or bedroom. However, many adoptive children are used to sleeping in rooms with other children. You can ease your child into their own room gradually by either moving their bed into your bedroom or making arrangements to sleep in their room for a while. 4.  Set aside time to bond with your child. You can help make up for not carrying your child for nine months by dedicating time with your child and you and your spouse after you bring your child home. During this special bonding period, put off any celebratory parties or big gatherings. Your child is likely already overwhelmed by new people and places, so ensure a few quiet weeks of one-on-one time with your child. Be especially cautious about allowing your child to be passed from person to person at gatherings. This could result in anxiety and fussy behavior. 5.  Get a lot of support. People often ask what they can do to help at this time, so take them up on it. Having a new family member can be mentally and physically exhausting, so be sure to get help, preferably lined-up in advance. Accept offers of meals and household chores and take a nap when the child naps. Having the support of other adoptive parents can also be valuable. Adoptive parenting presents unique issues and having others who understand is vital. By following the above tips you can ensure that this special time goes more smoothly for you and your new family...

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How To Plan Cremation Services

Posted by on May 18, 2015 in Uncategorized |

If you have lost a loved one and have been asked to plan funeral services, you probably feel that you have a heavy burden on your shoulders. After all, honoring somebody before friends and family is a big responsibility. If your loved one is being cremated, here are some ideas that might make your job easier: Plan A Display – Obviously, the biggest difference between a traditional funeral and one where the deceased has been cremated is that there is no body in a casket. Some people feel that this fact makes it harder to say goodbye, as there won’t be a service that includes a final viewing. You might be one of these individuals yourself: Having a display that represents the deceased person’s life will help you and others to have something concrete to remind you of your loved one. Consider having a display table that will include things like trophies and other awards received during life and objects that show favorite sports and hobbies. For example, if your loved one was an artist, display original art work.  For one who loved sports, create a display that includes sports shoes, balls, and other sports objects.  A beautiful part of the display would be to include framed photographs of your loved one. Frame pictures from the deceased’s baby years through present day photographs. Family pictures that include your loved one would be meaningful, too. Plan The Service – A perfect service pays honor to the deceased and brings consolation to those loved ones who are left behind. As you plan the service, consider whom to ask to speak. It might be you. Be sure to get pertinent personal facts from the closest person to the deceased, whether you are speaking or whether you have asked somebody else to do the honors. It is nice to include the deceased’s life story and accomplishments. Don’t forget to include humorous stories as this helps people in the congregation to feel closer to the person who has passed away. If they are comfortable speaking, another idea is to ask the deceased’s children and grandchildren to give a few words. If you want music for the services, consider the deceased person’s religious background. A Christian might love hymns like, How Great Thou Art, Amazing Grace and Holy, Holy, Holy. If you want to honor a patriot, consider songs like The Battle Hymn of the Republic, God Bless America or My Country “Tis of Thee. Other considerations are inspiring songs like The Impossible Dream, Over the Rainbow or Climb Every Mountain.  The funeral home will almost always help you with a simple open house where punch and cookies or cake will be served. This is a great time for friends and family to visit and to remember their loved one. Hopefully the time preparing for this event will be a special one for you. To learn more, contact a company like Ahlgrim & Sons Funeral And Cremation Services LTD with any questions or concerns you...

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5 Tips For Convincing Your Teen To See A Therapist

Posted by on Mar 16, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

When a teenager is getting into trouble at home or at school, professional therapy can be a great way to get to the root of the problem that is causing her to act out. However, many teens are not too keen on the idea of seeing a counselor or therapist. If your teen refuses to attend therapy sessions, try these five tips to change her mind: 1. Offer a Trial Period If your teenager is dead-set against seeing a counselor, offer her a short trial period of just a couple sessions. If you can get your teen to agree to even one single therapy session, that might be enough to convince her to continue going. Right now, the main goal is to just get her through the therapist’s door. 2. Find Another Trusted Adult Sometimes, teenagers are more willing to accept the advice of another adult over their own parents. If this is the case, don’t feel bad because it’s really not that uncommon. If you can’t seem to make any progress yourself, ask another trusted adult in your teen’s life to discuss the option of therapy with her. 3. Explain that Therapy Sessions are Confidential Your teen may refuse to attend counseling appointments because she thinks the therapist will report back to you everything that was discussed in the session. Sometimes, teens worry that their parents and therapists may even team up against them. Explain to your teenager that her therapy appointments are private and whatever she says in the session will stay between her and the therapist. 4. Stress that Therapy is Not a Punishment Always frame the idea of therapy as a positive step that many people take at some point in their lives. Let her know that you’re not punishing her for past behaviors by sending her to a “shrink.” Your teenager may feel differently about the idea of seeing a counselor if she is assured that this is not a consequence for misbehaving. 5. If All Else Fails, Try Bribery If you still can’t make inroads with your teen after trying the previous four tips, consider offering her some sort of reward for attending a session. The reward doesn’t have to be expensive, it just needs to be something you know she really wants. Your teenager’s therapist, one like Fairbanks Counseling & Adoption, can be a very valuable resource to have during times of difficulty. Using these tips to convince your teen to attend her first counseling appointment could be the best decision you’ve ever...

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Types Of Adoption To Consider

Posted by on Feb 4, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Adoption can be a beautiful, loving way to watch your family expand. Every child is precious and worthy of unconditional love, whether they are share your DNA or are placed in your life by another family who wants to give their birth child the best chance at a wonderful life. If you are considering adoption, learning about various options and the basics of each opportunity can help you decide which route is the right path for your family to take. Foster Adoption Adopting a child from the foster care system has numerous benefits. As explained by the Children’s Action Network, adopting through foster care is highly affordable. In fact, it can be essentially free, thanks to tax credits and other benefits. In some states, children and their families continue to receive state benefits such as monthly subsidies and health care even after adoption finalization. Older children, sibling groups, toddlers and even infants are waiting in foster care for their forever families. International Adoption If the idea of small children languishing in overcrowded orphanages pulls on your heartstrings, you may wish to consider international adoption. Start by finding an adoption agency that specializes in adoptions in the country from which you hope to find your child. They will be well versed in the laws, requirements, paperwork and other considerations that will affect your decision, such as the potential wait time, costs and travel times. Closed Adoption Also called confidential adoption, a closed adoption refers to a placement in which the birth and adoptive families have no direct contact. Some birth mothers choose closed adoptions because they seek closure, privacy and complete confidentiality. For instance, they may not want their family to learn about the pregnancy. Although you won’t have identifying information about the birth family, you can learn helpful information from the adoption agency such as the birth parents’ features, health and even their personalities. Open Adoption Increasingly common, open adoptions simply mean that the birth families remain in contact with the adoptive family. Some agencies, like A Child’s Dream, allow you to decide on the degree of “openness.” Every open adoption situation is unique; the adoptive and birth parents can determine what openness means to them. For some, this means letters and pictures exchanged through the adoption agency. For others, birth families become extended family members who are included in holidays, birthdays and other special occasions. Open adoption benefits all members of the adoption triad. Children grow up understanding that both their biological and adoptive parents have always loved them and wanted the best for them. Determining which type of adoption is right for your family takes time, understanding and lots of soul searching, but when you make your decision, you can be sure that your life and your heart will soon be fuller than you ever...

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Handling A Surprise Pregnancy

Posted by on Jan 19, 2015 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

If you have had a sneaky suspicion that you may be pregnant, and you take a test to confirm the result, you may have mixed feelings about the outcome. Finding out you are pregnant is a big deal and if it is a surprise, you may be a bit anxious and afraid. There are several ways to obtain information about pregnancy in general and there are some outreach programs available for those that are having a tough time with dealing with a positive result. See A Counselor The best way to get much needed support would be to see a pregnancy counselor as soon as you are able. You will be able to voice your fears and worries to a person who is neutral about the situation. A counselor will be able to help you learn about the different options you have available when handling the pregnancy. They will be able to give you written material and may have sessions where you would be able to speak with other pregnant women, making friends in the process. A counselor is extremely beneficial to any woman having doubts about her pregnancy. The counselor will be able to help by speaking with you about different alternatives and scenarios, helping you decide which route would be in your best interest. See A Doctor You will want to see an obstetrician or midwife shortly after finding out you are pregnant. You will have a complete exam to confirm you are indeed pregnant and you will be able to speak with the doctor about your concerns. You will want to make sure you take care of your body when pregnant as it will be working extra hard to give nutrients to the fetus. Taking prenatal vitamins is recommended right from the very beginning to give your unborn baby a healthy start within the body. You may need to do a bunch of tests to make sure you are healthy and your doctor will have you come back every month in the beginning to keep track of your progress. Slow Down The main thing you should do when finding out you are pregnant, is take the time to get adequate rest and to maintain a healthy lifestyle. You need to take care of yourself and if you are going to keep the baby or give it up for adoption, you will need to keep healthy so the baby has a better chance at being healthy themselves. Take time to reflect on the result and do not make any decisions right away. You will want to thoroughly think through all alternatives before making a decision. Listen to your pregnancy counselor and consider all choices before making your final decision. In the interim, you will need to stop drinking or smoking and try to live a healthy...

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